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Stephanie Sugars
Welcome, dear friends and guests!

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I'll see you in my dreams! Look for me in yours!


Photograph by Gilles Frydman

June 26, 2017

xox

Goodnight Irene - Lead Belly

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xn50JSI0W-E

xox

Dear mylifeline friends,

There may or may not be a book developed from this blog. A year before I started it, I wanted to write the book I wanted to read – what I always wondered about living with serious illness and conscious dying. I’ve read well over 10,000 books in my lifetime and was always hoping to explore this level of detail with an author. Since nobody else seemed to be doing it, it fell to me to write the book I wanted to read. I’m grateful that you’ve wanted to read it too!

What I know now is that this blog will remain at this URL into the foreseeable future. And that Commonweal in Bolinas is already the designated heir – a backup copy is on their server, though not accessible to the public now. They may choose to publish it in whatever manner they wish. Terri Mason and Arlene Allsman will let you know more here. Any proceeds from a subsequent project will go to: http://www.commonweal.org/program/cchp/

Also, there will be an after death at-home vigil shortly after my death to be be announced here and through networks of friends and family. Meg McNees will let you know of visiting hours and details.

Then, as close as possible to three days after the death, there will be a funeral in my religious tradition, The Christian Community: Movement for Religious Renewal http://www.thechristiancommunity.org Elinor Biller will announce it here and, there may be a death notice in the local newspaper, The Santa Rosa Press Democrat.

Finally, because most of my family and friends are not of my religious persuasion and/or can’t come on short notice, there is likely to be a memorial sometime later. Angela Morgan will announce it here and, possibly in the local newspaper.

Also, I hope and expect important news to travel word-of-mouth and hope it’s complete and accurate. Don’t you just love copying and pasting into an email? Much better than a game of Telephone!

My hope is that you feel as closely related to the forthcoming events as feels good to you.

And please, don't bring or send flowers or plant materials except those from private gardens and the greater outdoors. The plant industry is a crime against the planet!

xox

The following list is of my inner Circle of Care. Most of the members have been meeting since April 2012. I am well held by this Circle and deeply appreciate the deepening of our friendships through intimate sharing of experience. I also appreciate everyone’s willingness to work and play well with one another.

I don’t know about you, but I so appreciate knowing that my loved ones are in a good place and in good hands. If you know members of this list, you are welcome to contact them. They may not have included contact information here, but one member noted and others agreed, "if you know who I am, you know how to find me!"

I am in a good place in my process, abode and the care of my Circle.

Plus, angels are attending me!

As my needs increase, others may be called into an expanding or widening circle. Right now, the next step is to invite those who previously indicated interest in supporting me and my inner circle in this final adventures. If you too have an interest in participating, please contact Judy Helfand at Helfand@well.com Thank you for not contacting me, Stephanie.

Hospice takes care of heavy nursing and lifting, but you must not be afraid of bodily breakdown and be able to work under the guidance of others - the inner Circle of Care and hospice. Please be calm, quiet, courageous, attuned, attentive, emotionally self-contained, self-motivated, able to follow directions and not afraid of physical, emotional, spiritual and group process.

Our time together won't be a social visit and I may not even greet you. Your purpose would be to care for me in a new way by respecting and supporting my changing needs.

Also, because it’s my final party, I get to decide who to invite, who I feel most comfortable with at this last stage in life. My decisions will be based on my heart-mind wisdom, not your offers, though Judy will forward your messages to me. I will trust my inner, intuitive knowing and relinquish my usual head-trips of who "should" be included.

I’m tuckered out now, so will head back to bed.

Know that I’ll see you in my dreams. And, if you’re open for continued connections, you’ll see me in your dreams!

Your healing thoughts, wishes, prayers and meditations are welcome, whether or not you ever show up in person. We are always interconnected and evolving.

Sending warmest loving kindness for all!

Healing light surround you, Stephanie

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